✍️ TL;DR
If you’re a gay man thinking about trying an anal plug for the first time, this guide is for you. From safety tips to emotional prep, I share what helped me go from nervous to confident — without shame, pressure, or pain.
😰 1. I Was Scared the First Time — That’s Normal
I didn’t grow up with anyone talking about anal plugs.
Especially not for men.
Especially not for pleasure.
I thought it was dirty. Dangerous. Or meant for someone more “experienced.”
But deep down, I was just curious — and craving connection with my own body.
That first moment of curiosity wasn’t lust.
It was about exploration.
🎯 2. Choosing the Right First Plug Was Key
I didn’t want to go straight into a big, hard toy.
So I chose something beginner-safe:
- Small (no longer than 3.5 inches)
- Soft, body-safe silicone
- With a flared base (non-negotiable for safety)
- And paired with water-based lube
Holding it in my hand, I still had doubts.
But I reminded myself:
“Your body deserves comfort. Not punishment.”
💡 3. First Time: How It Actually Felt
I lit a candle. Took a shower.
Played some calm music.
I laid on my side, slow breathing, no pressure.
Lube. Pause. Breathe again.
The moment it went in — I gasped.
Not from pain — from surprise.
How gentle it could be. How… right.
It felt full, but not too much.
Like shaking hands with a part of myself I’d ignored for too long.
🧘 4. It Wasn’t About Orgasms — It Was About Ownership
I didn’t finish that night.
But I slept deeply.
I walked taller the next morning.
Because I’d listened to my body — and trusted it.
That plug didn’t just stretch my body.
It stretched my beliefs about what’s allowed, what’s healing, and what self-love really means.
🧼 5. Practical Tips I Wish Someone Had Told Me
- Clean before and after with toy-safe soap
- Go slow, always — lube is your best friend
- Test depth & pressure without expectation
- Never use toys without a base (safety first!)
- Relax your whole body, not just “there”
The goal isn’t to perform — it’s to feel.
What’s the best first anal plug for gay men?
A small, soft, silicone plug with a flared base is ideal — body-safe and beginner-friendly.
Does anal play hurt the first time?
It shouldn’t. If you go slow, use enough lube, and stay relaxed, it can feel surprisingly gentle and even pleasurable.
Is it okay to try alone?
Yes. Many gay men explore anal plugs solo first. It can build body confidence and help you discover what feels right — at your own pace.
You don’t need to be experienced.
You just need to be curious, patient, and kind to your body.
👉 Start your first gay anal plugs
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